I have noticed lately that some of us are having a problem staying on the BFC track at times. Then feel so guilty and bad - then feel bad about themselves - regret - failure, these feelings take over.
If you read back on my earlier posts you will notice that I thought I could never do this forever. There were many weeks that I did not lose, or I even gained. But I never stopped or changed what I was doing. I believed in what I was doing and could not stop for any reason, especially when I noticed the weight coming off - even if it was slowly.
I started posting videos on YouTube and I remember 1 comment I got; he said; "it took you a whole year to lose 80 pounds?" I felt squashed and hurt. I didn't understand why someone would make fun of me like that.
OK - so some of you are wondering and worrying about the holidays and what you are gonna eat already. Let me tell you something.....
I am NOT Gonna let anything or anyone EVER persuade me to going back to the way I ate before!! EVER!! I have gone from a size 20 to a size 8 and I will NEVER mess this up again!
Don't let the food bullies get to you. You decide what to eat and what not to eat at Thanksgiving or Christmas.
Just because it's a Holiday or Birthday, or a special occasion - why do you think that anything is different?? Why do you think that you can eat what you want on THAT day?? Well YOU CAN"T - if you want to lose weight.
Maria (my step-mom) when she was here the other week,
asked me:
I thought you were not on a diet anymore?
I told her:
Maria, I am gonna be on a diet for the rest of my life. I will eat just like this FOREVER!! Look what I did? I did ALL this... I am not gonna ever mess this up!!
I know I sound kind of hard today, but I just want you to understand that this is a lifetime commitment and you have to get your head wrapped around that idea - that you have to eat like this forever to look good and not get fat again.....
Thanks for listening and letting me yell at you. Lots of love to you all.
This is PurpleRosy signing off...
My thought for today:
Love What You Do
If you want to be successful, it’s just this simple: Know what you’re doing. Love what you’re doing. And believe in what you’re doing.I believe in US and I believe in the Belly Fat Cure.
Keep on BFC ' n :-)
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Rosalie, you are a wise, wise woman! The good news is that if we fall off track, we can jump right back in. No regrets...no fails...unless we quit trying!
ReplyDelete"A whole year"?! Ha, well I say "Only a year?"
ReplyDeleteI find it easier to just think one day and wk at a time. Thinking of "can I do this forever" just freaks me out. I don't have to think out forever, I just have to do the right thing at this meal. Im trying to live in the present.
Food bullies are ridiculous. I have seen 10x more of it with the Fast Track too.
I didn't feel 'yelled' out...you were just getting our attention. I'm losing slowly too, but knowing you did as well-keeps me going. I know I will eventually be at a healthy weight-even if it takes a "whole year!".
ReplyDeleteAs far a holidays-there are so many BFC/FT foods to choose from.
Stay on course all...or Rosy will 'yell' at you! HA
...I mean 'yelled' at...
ReplyDeleteThank you for yelling at me,,,,
ReplyDeleteI just posted a blog to Dawn. I am in a depression. I keep resolving to do better and I do, then go off. I can't figure out why. I have no bullies to worry about.
I don't want to be this way,,,,
Linda
Dear Rosalie, Your the Best! Just what I needed to hear!Thanks for keeping it real! Mary B
ReplyDeleteThanks for the talking to....I needed it! LOL! PMS week is so hard for me becaue I get so hungry, but I think I'm back on track this week. BTW, research shows that the slower you lose weight, the longer it stays off! I bet the person who made the rude comment about it taking a year, is probably back at their beginning weight.....and youre not! ;)
ReplyDeleteCarey
Hi Rosalie. You just keep on keeping us all in line. We all need that. I think 80 lbs in a year is amazing!
ReplyDeleteHi Rosalie, you are doing great!!!
ReplyDeleteThis past year has been hard on me. I lost my focus and gained some weight back, which is why I haven't been around. I felt lost and frustrated and needed space to figure things out for myself. I actually joined WW to provide myself with a real life support group. I realized that real life support was part of the equation that I was missing. I really need the accountability and support that the weigh-in and meetings provide. I'm back down to 143 lbs., but am finding myself struggling with staying focused again. It seems like every time I get close to being in the 130s again, I sabotage myself and I don't know why. It's happening again and I'm trying really hard to get past this point. I'm really impressed with your persistance. I think you're right about accepting that how we eat needs to be for life. I recently read this article and thought that you and everyone else would enjoy reading it.
http://www.businessweek.com/lifestyle/content/healthday/641741.html
Hugs,
Minichick
Funny that you and I both posted about 'commitment' today. LOL. You definitely gotta stay committed to make this weight loss thing work.
ReplyDeleteOh, and the teas I posted about today - one is low caffeine and one is non caffeine, so I get to have the 'aztec sweet chili' at night. Woo hoo! ;) Have a good one!
Rosalie, you have done such a great job. I know for many dieters slips and falls are part of learning and some learn slower then others. You are one in a million to stay focused and we all strive to be that way....believe me I wish I could be so focused but I am a slow learner lol.
ReplyDeleteMinichick...that article was GREAT! Thanks!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Kay. It really hit home with me that I really need to tailor a way of eating that I can live with and that doesn't make me feel deprived. I'm not doing WW or BFC strictly because both have things about them that make me feel deprived. I'm a part of WW more for the support system, not to follow their plan in a strict manner of speaking. Thankfully, our leader is a huge proponent of NOT using artificial sweeteners and eating whole foods. She has told us many times that since the low fat craze started, obesity has actually risen, and that's a fact. Because of that she supports eating whole foods, but eating less. She is definitely my kind of WW leader. I know I can follow a lower carb/sugar diet without her frowning down upon me.
ReplyDeleteI can definitely say that after my diet being all over the place this past year, that lower carb eating is definitely the one that works best for me. As soon as I start eating too many carbs, my cravings go out of control again, and the sugar make me bloat so badly! The key for me is to figure out how to eat a lower carb diet without feeling deprived. I'm excited to try these coconut bread recipes that everyone has been talking about. It's things like this that will help me not feel deprived.
It's nice to catch up with all of you again.
You're right about being committed and not cheating Rosalie! I have a hard enough time losing while staying right on track!
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